My sister tells me I’m an ‘instant gratificationer’. (lol..yeah, I know, we make up words a lot…it’s fun to add er or y to the end of a word to make it snap). Now I’m sure you can figure out exactly what she means, but of course I’m going to go into detail a bit.
Now I admit I’m not an instant gratificationer in every aspect of my life, I’m generally patient and don’t mind waiting for certain things. But every once in awhile there is something that comes along and I lose my patience…and a driving need pulses through me that makes me want it right now! (kind of like that character from Willy Wonka…I think you know the one…hehehehe)
Basically instant gratificationers like the whole tamale, all set and finished and pretty. For instance, when my sister and I are out shopping for new plants or shrubs for our yard, I want the full grown, already mature model…she picks out the tiny, microscopic twig and waits years for it to reach the size of the one I have in my cart. (lol…go figure…why wait when you can get the finished product?) When we buy furniture, she’ll choose something like a table or shelves that are naked and she’ll have to stain or paint, I go for the one that can be placed in the room and loaded up with plants, books or whatever, as soon as I walk in the door of my home with my purchase.
But we have an area where we switch places. She likes to buy the already prepared meals or order take out, I prefer the pleasure of cooking and creating a dish, mainly because cooking relaxes me. (insane right?…lol)
So, you’re asking what has this got to do with anything? LOL…believe me, there is a point I’m trying to make here.
And that point is to be careful for wanting the final product, the finale so to speak. Sometimes it’s nice to wait. Especially if you are talking about goals. Get comfortable with your goals and let them grow along with yourself.
I’m mainly referring to something I learned about myself versus social networking. All those fun sites like Twitter, Facebook, Linkedin, your own personal website/blog…and the many more I’m probably not even aware of…yet (lol).
Quiet by nature, I’m pretty reserved, unless I know you and we are great friends, then I have the biggest mouth in the great lake region. But I was scared stiff to get involved in all the social media sites. I signed up for them with two things in mind. To meet other people and to force myself out of my comfort zone. Visit other blogs and loops and meet other authors, readers, people. In the process I learned that the writing community is so full of helpful people. They all seem to work together to share ideas and motive each other, help each other. It’s truly incredible. Like I said, I’m a bit on the shy side, so stepping outside my comfort zone was a hard thing for me to do. But at the same time I knew it’d be good for me. Good to meet others, share experiences, learn.
So in my excitement I went about it full force. I researched and at the same time jumped right in with gusto (which wasn’t like my usual self). I found I enjoyed touring other blogs, participating in author loops, posting comments, meeting new people. But I also discovered that it took a lot of time and I felt like I was trading in my writing hours for social hours. No, not always bad, but you have to find a happy medium.
In all my eagerness, I also noticed how all these more established authors had quite a following on their blogs and other social sites, and I have to admit I was impressed. I decided to try and build up my own following on my own sites. I wanted it all, I wanted it now. Anyway, my excitement was making me a bit greedy in having followers. My ‘instant gratificationer’ persona had added another layer.
I didn’t really know how to go about building up my following. I researched some more, asked some friends. Then I stopped myself and took a good look.
You know what I discovered? It’ll all come in time. It might start out slow. Your site might be filled with friends only for now. But hey, that’s okay. Where are we without our friends? Over time people that you don’t know, people that aren’t from the writing community and offering to share support…will find you. They will have read your work, or have had it recommended by a friend and will search you out. If they like your product…they will follow your blog, your twitter, like you on facebook. So, normally a patient person that took a quick leap to the other side, this was a lesson I learned today. Take your time and savor the journey.
How about you? Are you an instant gratificationer?