Please help me welcome special guest Candis Terry to the blog today. She’s sharing her thoughts on rejection…never an easy subject…and also her latest book Something Sweeter. Don’t you just love the cover? I do!
And if that’s not enough, check the chance to enter her sweepstakes…and a giveaway! Links are at the end of the post!
Take it away Candis…
REJECTION–NOT NECESSARILY A FOUR-LETTER WORD
Thank you so much for inviting me to join you today. I’m very excited about the release of SOMETHING SWEETER, the third full-length book in my Sweet, Texas series.
Okay, so I know rejection has more than four letters. But when writers receive a rejection letter they have a tendency to spout four-letter words at full volume. Personally I’ve always thought the wrong word was chosen for this part of the submission process. It shouldn’t be called rejection because that’s personal. It makes a writer immediately feel like they’re not good enough. Or that they don’t have enough talent. Or that the universe hates them. And that becoming published won’t ever happen. Receiving a rejection letter is like waking up on the day of your wedding with a great big zit on the tip of your nose. It’s ugly. And the emotional impact makes you feel like it won’t get any better anytime soon.
If I were queen of the world, I would have tagged this part of the submission process “Not Right Now.” Because in the publishing world that’s truly what this means. A rejection doesn’t mean you don’t have talent, or that your story sucks, or that you used the wrong names for your characters, or that you put a love scene on page two when it probably should have gone on page fifty. What it means is that the story might need a little more polishing, or that the editor might have just bought a story like the one you’re submitting, or that you’ve written an awesome vampire book but the industry decided on that very day that vampires are dead. Ha!
A rejection is nothing personal. Yet that’s exactly the way a writer see it because that’s what that word tells them–we are rejecting YOU.
For twenty-two years I worked at becoming a published author. Yes. Twenty-two long freaking years in which I received more rejections than I ever imagined. My writer friends tagged me the ‘queen of the longest awaited rejection.’ One time I had two different manuscripts which had been requested by two different editors at two different publishing houses. My hopes were high. Both manuscripts were personally requested! Woohoo! Now, jump forward five years. Yep. F-I-V-E years. That’s how long it took me to receive rejections for those two personally requested manuscripts. The irony? I received both rejections in the same week. How could I not believe the universe was telling me I sucked? To give up my dream?
What I eventually learned was that I needed to do more work, more polishing. I needed to write in my own voice and not try to mimic another storyteller. I needed to stop writing for a genre that was hot at the moment or a specific “line” that was currently popular and the editors were looking for something for that “line.” Because sure as the sun was going to pop up in the morning, by the time I wrote a story for that “line” the publisher would have moved onto something else. I learned to tell the story in my own way and I needed to stop worrying about what everyone else was doing. I believed that if I stuck to my guns and just wrote the best story possible, polished it till it shined, and stayed true to my own voice, the stars would all align and the “rejections” would end.
Guess what? It worked.
It’s my hope that writers will stop looking at rejections in a negative way just because of the word choice used. It’s my hope writers will learn from those letters. That they will see something in the missive from an agent or editor that will help them wade through the muck. And that they will learn to believe in themselves and their work a little more instead of tearing it all apart because the word “rejection” is implied. The best advice I can give is to use the rejection as a learning tool and keep the belief that it will happen, just maybe not right now.
If you’re a writer, how do you see and deal with rejections?
If you’re a reader, is it important to you to know how rejections can make or break a writer?
The men in Texas are hard to resist . . . Seattle event planner Allison Lane is an expert at delivering the perfect wedding—even if she might not exactly believe in the whole “’til death do us part” thing. When her father decides to tie the knot with a woman he barely knows, Allison heads to Sweet, Texas, to make sure his new honey is the real deal. What she didn’t expect to find at the local honky-tonk was a sexy Southern man as bent on charming her pants off as he is on blowing her “true love doesn’t exist” theory all to hell. And they always promise . . .
Veterinarian, former Marine, and Sweet’s favorite playboy Jesse Wilder takes one look at Allison and knows she’s a handful of trouble he can’t deny. But even after a sizzling kiss and obvious mutual attraction, it seems Allison has no such problem. When Jesse uncovers her sweet side, can he crush his playboy image, melt her cynical heart, and change her mind about taking a trip down the aisle?
Candis Terry was born and raised near the sunny beaches of Southern California and now makes her home on an Idaho farm. She’s experienced life in such diverse ways as working in a Hollywood recording studio to chasing down wayward steers. Only one thing has remained the same: her passion for writing stories about relationships, the push and pull in the search for love, and the security one finds in their own happily ever after.
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*Candis is giving away a Signed Copy of SOMETHING SWEETER and a $25.00 Amazon or B&N Gift Card (US ONLY)*